WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:04.000 We had this little boy and--the first child--and 00:00:04.000 --> 00:00:07.000 my mother came from India to help me with the baby 00:00:07.000 --> 00:00:11.000 in '71. He was born in March of '71. 00:00:11.000 --> 00:00:15.000 And she came from India to help me with the baby's delivery 00:00:15.000 --> 00:00:17.500 and, you know, while I was still studying. 00:00:17.500 --> 00:00:22.000 It was hard, because my husband had a fellowship that barely paid the rent. 00:00:22.000 --> 00:00:26.000 And I had a teaching assistantship which allowed us to 00:00:26.000 --> 00:00:29.500 pay for food and so on and we had to take some loans and 00:00:29.500 --> 00:00:32.000 it was a very hard time. 00:00:32.000 --> 00:00:34.000 My mother came to visit for the baby and 00:00:34.000 --> 00:00:37.000 then she stayed for 9 months and she would have have stayed 00:00:37.000 --> 00:00:41.000 longer if the war in India had not started. 00:00:41.000 --> 00:00:44.000 But there was a huge civil war in Pakistan and there was 00:00:44.000 --> 00:00:47.000 huge amount of refugees and that was the war in 00:00:47.000 --> 00:00:51.000 which East Pakistan separated from and became Bangladesh 00:00:51.000 --> 00:00:56.000 and West Pakistan became Pakistan. War broke out and she went 00:00:56.000 --> 00:01:00.000 back and then I have to fend for myself. 00:01:00.000 --> 00:01:04.000 And, you know, babysitters and daycare centers and it was quite a bit of 00:01:04.000 --> 00:01:07.000 a hassle. I went to India when he was 1 year old. 00:01:07.000 --> 00:01:10.000 You know, I'd met my aunts and uncle and 00:01:10.000 --> 00:01:13.500 I tried to convince him to come visit me. So they said, 00:01:13.500 --> 00:01:16.500 "Okay, we'll come and visit you and take care of the baby for a months 00:01:16.500 --> 00:01:19.000 and then see the country and come back." 00:01:19.000 --> 00:01:22.500 And that was a huge deal because of that time you know that's like 00:01:22.500 --> 00:01:25.000 a whole lifetime of savings, you know? 00:01:25.000 --> 00:01:29.500 But they decided they would do that. And so my aunt came and she actually 00:01:29.500 --> 00:01:32.000 watched the baby when he was 2 years old 00:01:32.000 --> 00:01:37.000 so that I could go to the library and finish writing up my PhD. 00:01:37.000 --> 00:01:42.000 And after I finished that then she and her husband, 00:01:42.000 --> 00:01:44.000 my uncle and she, went around the US 00:01:44.000 --> 00:01:47.000 and saw places and then went back to India.